Abusive relationships

Abusive Relationship - sounds very much familiar to our ears! Thats because we hear the word so often now a days that we now count it as a very common thing. Infact, 1 in 11 high school students report being physically hurt. People in abusive relationships sometimes mistake the abuse for intense feelings of caring or concern. It can even seem flattering. Think of a friend whose boyfriend or girlfriend is insanely jealous. Maybe it seems like your friend's partner really cares. But actually, excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all. Love involves respect and trust. Most people don't want to admit that they are in an abusive relationship. They WANT to believe that everything is okay and everything will become allright in the end. And in this process, they start accepting that they are the ones who are wrong. Abusive relationships can be Physical, Sexual or Emotional.
Emotional abuse (stuff like teasing, bullying, and humiliating others) can be difficult to recognize because it doesn't leave any visible scars. Threats, intimidation, putdowns, and betrayal are all harmful forms of emotional abuse that can really hurt — not just during the time it's happening, but long after too.
Sexual abuse can happen to anyone, guy or girl. It's never right to be forced into any type of sexual experience that you don't want.
Physical abuse includes harming you physically in any way, including slapping, pushing, grabbing, shaking, smacking, kicking, and punching.
When someone says stuff like "If you loved me, you would . . . " that's also a warning of possible abuse. A statement like this is controlling and is used by people who are only concerned about getting what they want — not caring about what you want. Trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
Many people avoid the pain of a breakup by thinking that things will work out. It often seems difficult to sort through the maze of emotions surrounding the relationship. The truth is, relationships can flourish, get boring, grow sour or even become abusive. People have to work at getting along with others. There are no quick and easy ways, no shortcuts to a healthy relationship.
How can you help yourself?
What should you do if you are suffering from any type of abuse? If you think you love someone but often feel afraid, it's time to get out of the relationship — fast. You're worth being treated with respect and you can get help. First, make sure you're safe. A trusted adult can help. Avoid the tendency to isolate yourself from your friends and family. You might feel like you have nowhere to turn, or you might be embarrassed about what's been going on, but this is when you need support most. People like counselors, doctors, teachers, coaches, and friends will want to help you, so let them.
Don't rely on yourself alone to get out of the situation. Friends and family who love and care about you can help you break away. It's important to know that asking for help isn't a sign of weakness. It actually shows that you have a lot of courage and are willing to stand up for yourself.
Just remember abuse has no place in love...