Ever wondered what a relationship actually is?? What does it take to keep a relationship healthy and going? Well, Relationship is the way in which people get along together. The way in which things are connected. We all start off life with built-in relationships. We are all connected to someone who takes care of us: parents, grandparents, relatives or other caring people. Sometimes though, we may not be so lucky. The people who were there at the beigning of our life may not be a part of our later life. For example, death, suicide, accidents or divorce may take place and either of the parents, grandparents, brother or sister may leave. In such cases we turn to other adults who care for us a lot.
Relationships with classmates, neighbours or colleagues can be wonderful. But like anything else in life, some relations don't work out well as we want them too. Some relations can be unhealthy and bad for us. Sometimes it's hard to figure out who is good for us and who isin't. Some classmates or co-workers take advantage of us, play games or just take something from us. Some use force, manipulation or our emotions to get what they want from us. If you are alert and know before time about their intentions, you could be saved from getting hurt.
Now lets move on to the pre-requisites for an acceptable and top-quality realtionship. The basic and the most important things required in a relationship are Trust and Understanding.
Let me start with an example. A child loves his mother a lot but he doesn't say "I love you" everyday or whenever he meets her! Also, the mother never expects the child to say that and instead loves her child back unconditionally. Similarly, one should not expect his/her boyfriend or girlfriend to "say" that he/she loves you. If that person is with you and he supports you in everything you do, then he is already showing his love...and I believe that Actions speak louder than Words! This is what you call TRUST.
However, people often blindly trust their new love. NO, thats not how you begin a new relationship. This will infact lead to a disaster! You need to spend a few weeks/months with the person in order to trust him.
I have often seen a situation like this: A mother starts inquiring about her son when he comes home late at night. The son thinks that she dosen't trust him. However, the son is wrong. When the mother is questioning him it just shows that she cares for him. And if the son does not reply rudely and does not misbehave with her, it means he UNDERSTOOD her concerns.
So you see....Trust & Understanding are related to each other.
If you trust the opposite person, you will automatically understand him.
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