As dicussed earlier, relationships play a major role in shaping our lives. A bad relationship often has many things in them. If you are in a relationship that has the following taking place, the chances of having a positive relation are slim. Get the heck out the relationship as soon as possible!
- One-sidedness - When one person dominates the relationship and you have to constantly give in, the person is a very bad choice to stay with. Such a domination often leads to inferior feeling in the opposite person.
- Manipulation - The person does anything to get what he or she wants. This includes threatening, beating or any kind of crime.
- Possessiveness - The person becomes extremely jealous if you talk to or hang out with other people. You feel that you can't be yourself. Possessiveness often leads to one-sidedness.
- Unrealistic demands - The person tells you that you must dress, act or think in a certain way. You always have to do what the other person wants instead of adjusting or compromising.
- Anger - The person gets extremely angry or violent. You are hurt and afraid and always think its your fault. Sometimes people with bad anger get calm really quickly. They then try to console and apologize for what they have done. It is always wise to remain away from such people.
Learn to recognize people who don't have your best interests at heart so you can avoid them. Learn to recognize the qualities that make a good relationship, and work on keeping relationships healthy.
- Take your time - As mentioned in my previous post, really getting to know and trust someone occurs as you have many experiances together.
- Balance the give and take - Make sure there is a healthy balance of give and take. Neither person should dominate the relationship.
- Don't worry too much - Don't allow yourself to spend a great deal of time worrying about your relationship. Just keep moving on with it. Be happy with what you've got!
- Adjust to change - Realise that relationships constantly change, and learn how to adjust to these changes. You could drift away from a close friend. Or you could decide to start dating someone as your friendship grows closer.
- Look for good qualities - Keep the past relationships/experiances in mind and write down why certain people make good friends to you. Look for those qualities when making new friends.
So good luck in your journey to a newer, healthier and better relationships!
